MILF vs. Mommy Fetish: Distinguishing True Fetish from the Porn-Industrial Cumplex

MILF vs. Mommy Fetish: Distinguishing True Fetish from the Porn-Industrial Cumplex by Kimberly Kane

Everyone loves a MILF! The classic pubescent lust for Stifler's Mom in the movie "American Pie" has influenced an entire generation of young men, and that's great for us babes over 30!

In mainstream "studio" porn, MILF is a reliable formula, but a formula nonetheless, and any woman over 28 years old is considered "MILF" age. However, some adult actresses don't want to play the MILF, and some directors push back on shooting women under 35 because they consider themselves MILF purists!

“MILF has always been a “frat-boy” fantasy to me”

But the gears of the MILF machine must be greased! The appetite for MILF content is ravenous, and the algorithm is all-consuming. That's why some actresses in porn refuse to work in the genre: it can become all you do, and all the fans see when they search your name.

I have done some MILF scenes — guilty as charged — but the scenes I enjoy the most have fetish elements that spark my interests. MILF has always been a "frat-boy" fantasy to me and not a fetish.

The difference between MILF and Mommy Fetish is nuanced and personal; with MILF you want to fuck a hot mom, someone else's mom, not your mom. And therein lies the difference.

MOMMY CREAMPIE TRAINING

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Mommy Fetish is YOUR MOM or a nurturing mother figure. Mommy fetish isn't about scoring with the neighborhood MILF; it's about mommy gently pressing you into her big soft breasts, holding you in her arms, and soothing you back into the womb. It's a softer MILF, not a ferocious sex cougar.

Over the years, with tons of fan requests and custom video orders. I've produced a variety of unique MILF titles of my own, such as "Lesbian Step-Mom Training, co-starring Syren De Mer, MILF Club Blowjob, and who could forget the classic Mother's Secret Cold Remedy? All of which can easily be searched and enjoyed on my clip studio listed on KANECLIPS.COM

“I worry that he’ll cum in his pants and humiliate himself”

In my latest Mommy Fetish release entitled "Mommy Creampie Training," I help my son prepare for his first date. I know he's a pre-mature ejaculator, so I worry that he'll cum in his pants and humiliate himself before he even rounds second base. So, like any caring "mommy," I help relax him before his big night. I drain him of all his cum with graphically delicious creampies.

In closing, fetish is all about feeling. I might not get that ol' spark from MILF, but I do get a thrill from Sensual Mommy Domination. Feel free to comment below about what MILF and Mommy Fetish means to you!

MOMMY CREAMPIE TRAINING RELEASING 4/22/21

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Stoya taps Kimberly Kane for brothel advice on SLATE.COM

Dear How to Do It,

While talking about a trip to Nevada with my girlfriend, I jokingly asked if we could make a stop at a brothel. She said that it was fine, and seemed OK when I asked again seriously, as long as I did it solo. I plan on talking to my girlfriend more about it to make sure we’re on the same page. But I can’t really find much information about going about the whole business, with or without her. What should I expect when visiting a brothel, and how would I even act? I’ve tried looking for answers online, but I can’t find much information.

—Brothel Questions

Dear Brothel Questions,

It is a good idea to check in with your girlfriend again about this, but to answer your actual question, I reached out directly to the source: pornographer and Nevada brothel worker Kimberly Kane. She had a lot of useful stuff to say. “Honestly, you’re not alone,” she wrote in response to your question. “There isn’t a ton of information about brothel etiquette online.”

Here is her advice, edited slightly:

You say you’re taking a trip to Nevada—are you driving or flying? Keep in mind that brothels are in rural or unincorporated areas because of the brothel zoning laws. You’ll need to drive to the brothel or ask the brothel if they have a car service. If possible, drive yourself. Some brothels offer clients complimentary pickup and drop-off but will tack on a high percentage to the total amount of your visit, making it more expensive. I work at the Bunny Ranch, where rides are 100 percent free of charge (but ALWAYS tip the driver).

When planning a trip to a brothel, it’s best to start your research on the brothel’s website. There is always a robust FAQ page that can answer a lot of your questions about safety and legality. You can also browse the courtesans’ profiles to see which lady would be a good match for you. All brothels are open 24/7, and there’s always someone available to answer questions and take bookings.

Pro tip: When emailing a courtesan, be courteous and professional. Give your name, available dates and times, a brief (nonvulgar) description of the party you’d like to have, and your ballpark budget. I always say, pretend you’re writing your chiropractor instead of a sexy lady. If you send an unprofessional email, you will most likely not get a good response or any response at all.

Even though courtesans are licensed and legal in parts of Nevada, they can’t solicit sex online. Every courtesan has her own rates, and if you’re nice, prices are negotiable in-house. Keep in mind that whatever your budget is, the house takes half, so be conscious of that when budgeting your trip.

Kane wrote that “a brothel is like Disneyland for your genitals, and that level of service should be highly valued.” She considered the lowest tier of services as “south of four figures,” and if that’s your budget, she said, “I suggest being genuinely kind to the ladies. Nice guys finish first in a brothel.” The options increase in price from there: In the mid–four digits, you might get to plan “a bespoke experience with the special lady of your choice.”

It doesn’t sound like your girlfriend has any interest in joining you, but if that changes, Kane also wrote, “Honestly, if you and your partner want to experience a three-way without the headache of navigating it in your community, I highly suggest seeing a courtesan. The most important thing for couples to know when visiting a brothel is to BE ON THE SAME PAGE WITH YOUR PARTNER. If one of you doesn’t want to be there, it shows, and it’s going to be a long, awkward ride back into town.”

UPDATE: APRIL 10, 2020 - Kimberly Kane no longer works at the Bunny Ranch. Please contact for more details.

SPOON FED: HOW TO COMPOSE AN EMAIL TO A SEX WORKER 101

Are you nervous about emailing a sex worker? Don't know what to write, or haven't been getting good responses from emails you have sent? This little op-ed might help you in your quest for companionship. 

HOW TO COMPOSE AN EMAIL TO A SEX WORKER 101

Not only is this a self-serving post, but I feel like a lot of potentially great clients don't understand the importance of a well-composed introductory email to a sex worker. In particular, an escort/courtesan, so I'm here to help. 

First, consider the person you're writing as a professional offering a service, such as a therapist instead of a super-babe, this will change your mindset when making the first contact. 

Make a good first email impression and always be a gentleman. Spend time composing your email thoughtfully, and you will most likely get warm and professional responses in return.

Here's an example of a nicely written introductory email. Feel free to use it as a template or make it your own!

GOOD INTRO EMAIL EXAMPLE:

"Greetings ______,

My name is _______, and I'm so happy to be writing to you. I read your website, tour dates, and booking info, and I also read your deposit policy, and everything looks great!

I want to schedule an appointment with you and these are my available DATES/TIMES. If my dates work for you, I'll go ahead and place my deposit. 

Thank You,

YOUR NAME

_________________________________

BAD INTRODUCTION EMAIL EXAMPLE:

"Hi"

"I want to fuck you."

"How Much"

What is Sensual Domination?

Sensual domination, to me, is domination without painful discipline. However, discipline can be dished out in many different ways and still feel strict to the submissive.  A lot of my fetishes have nothing to do with inflicting pain, cuckolding, for example. The Cuckold gets sexual gratification from their partner having sex with other people. Sometimes behind their backs (adultery) or consensually within the boundaries of their relationship.

I see a lot of potential for Cuckold play at the Bunny Ranch. I’d like to have fun with this scenario on a grand scale. I’d like to have a Cuckold “slave” pay for clients to party with me. The humiliation alone would be extremely gratifying for the Cuckold.

Bisexual Encouragement is another fetish near and dear to my heart. A lot of men have bisexual desires, but they are not comfortable exploring them all the way. That’s where I come in. I like to encourage men to take the next step. This fetish can be very erotic, involving role-play scenarios and consensual verbal coercion, which is one of my many talents.

Another example of sensual domination is “the stern girlfriend or mother figure.” When you’re playing in the submissive role, you can let the outside world melt away. In your “normal” life, you might be stressed out at a high-level job, but when you’re with me, you have one task at hand, make mommy happy.

I take my time getting to know my clients. I ask a lot of questions to get down to what turns you on about your particular fetish.  I, unfortunately, do not offer heavy impact BDSM parties at the Bunny Ranch. I feel my interests more aline with sensual domination. That’s why I invite you to tap into your true desires and book an appointment with me, your Mistress, Kimberly Kane.

Porn Sex vs Real Life Sex

A dive into the misconceptions of pornography by Kimberly Kane

This subject is incredibly important since the rise of free porn on the internet and the fact that anyone of any age can view hardcore pornography. I am just old enough that I didn’t grow up with free porn. When I was young, all porn sites were paywalled. Meaning you wouldn’t see much without throwing down a credit card for a website membership which was around $60 a month.

I remember porn tapes being as valuable as gold. If you had a really good porn tape you could trade it like currency. This might sound unbelievable to folks but the first time I ever saw a DP (double penetration) scene on video, I was 18 and I did not believe it was humanly possible, I thought it was some fancy camera angle trick.

Now a days seeing a DP is one of the least shocking sex acts you can see on the Internet. We have an entire generation that has grown up being able to access hardcore pornography for free and the concept of paywalls to view porn is simply abstract. My question is at what cost is the free porn generation really paying on a psychological level?

I am not a psychologist, I’m a pornographer/sex worker and I’m out here in the world talking to “generation tubesite”  and they tell me sex gives them anxiety. They have watched thousands of hours of porn and instead of it making them feel confident they feel inadequate. They think their penis’ aren’t big enough, if their partners aren’t screaming and squirting during sex they think they’re doing something wrong. There isn’t a lot of foreplay in porn so this very important aspect of intimacy is sometimes skipped over entirely. Because of the lack of access to sex education young people are watching porn to learn about sex. Which is about as warped as looking to social media to learn about inner happiness. Porn is entertainment not educational material

The best way I can simply explain porn sex vs. real sex is by asking this question, “Do you believe the Superman movies are real? Do you believe Superman is flying around fighting crime? Of course you don’t! We can give superhero movies a suspension of disbelief. Now, try lending the same suspension of disbelief when watching porn.

Porn is a performance. The bigger the dick, the louder the screams, the more effortless position changes the better! Porn performers are simultaneously thinking about lights, body position and our next move. You’re also trying to convey connection and realism for the audience. If the scene is executed well the sex will seem easy but I assure you it is not. A great porn performance is a physical and artistic craft. It should also be noted that there are also camera operators and crew who’s experience lends to the creation of great pornography, just like mainstream Hollywood movies.

I personally do not have porn style sex at home. In order for me to be in the zone I need to calm my mind, focus on my partner and be in the moment. I want to genuinely please my partner and I want reciprocation in an honest and connected way. Sometimes my real sex is quiet and passionate, giggly and cute or sexually dominate and perverted. Another difference in my real sex is something not often seen in porn. I always incorporate my Doxy vibrator to reach orgasm because I do not climax from penetration alone.

If you take anything away from my post understand that pornstars are not always having crazy sex off camera. Lend some disbelief to the performance as physical acting and find comfort in the fact that even pornstars are having lazy, cuddle sex just like anyone else. Appreciate porn for what it is, entertainment like your favorite superhero movies!